We all know this day as either the most remarkable or dismal day of the calendar year. It is a day where most of us either feel loved or absolutely alone. Valentine’s day is one of those holidays that essentially is used to allow people to show appreciation for the one or ones they love. Most of us, go out buy a dozen roses, make reservations at a 5-star restaurant or create an atmosphere at home to demonstrate to that special someone that we care.
Online in websites like Facebook and Twitter, it is very simple to spot those that oppose the holiday because they don’t feel that they are loved and no one cares. Usually comments like “I hate Valentine’s Day” or “screw it I’m happy being alone”. The act of even taking the time to post a status update illustrates that deep down within they do care. They want what a lot of us think we need, validation. They want to feel that someone out there loves and needs them just as much as they do.
If all of us took the time and took a few steps back and realized that no one should ever need validation to feel loved. In order to love someone else, one has to be able to love youself. Think about it this way, it is not love that you miss it is some self-esteem and confidence that you need.
This holiday is a day to enjoy and reflect on myself. If I don’t have someone to spend it with, I treat myself to the spa and reflect on my family and their good health. It is not always about that special person; it is about life and what the future will bring from this day of forward.
So, relax and if you are alone pop in a movie and enjoy the evening with a glass of chardonnay and remember that before you can love someone else, you must be able to love yourself.
Happy Valentine’s Day